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Planning Application Re New Stable Approved.

Hi Guys and Ladies, its Mistress Haylee with some great news, I don`t know if you all know but Ola`s site olafetish.com was bought out lock stock and barrel by a Lady called Madame Chaya and some of us Mistresses have been on edge because the site was to be Re Modeled to bring it up to new standards with new idea`s and the site is now called Madame Chaya`s Domme Boudoir and can still be found at www.olafetish.com Well we was asked to re apply if we wanted to keep on the site, I don`t mind telling you I was very worried that I would have to knock down my New Stable post by post and put in planning application on another site.

But late yesterday I had confirmation that my application was successful and I can remain online for another year, Madam Chaya also told me that she hopes that all the Existing Dommes who are on the site will contact her, So Ladies there is no need to worry like I was I think its only a formality to just make it known to Madame that you would like to be a Domme on her site and from what I seen of the developments on site then I for one are going to make the most of the great opportunity to further my career and Top up my bank balance by servicing the needs of others and I intend to build an extension on the New Stable and therefor will be searching for New Clientele so Trot, Canter, Gallop along to the New Stable and prove you are Worthy.

Mistress Haylee.   haylee_bristol@mail.com

Mistress Consensual – Agency Application

MISTRESS CONSENSUAL:  At Last I have brought out my Contact form.

You can now tell Me what you are searching for in a Mistress and tell us just what your Fetish is and we will try and match you to the sort of Mistress that you desire and even if you have already got your eye on a Mistress its a lot of fun filling out my New style Form and you remain anonymous too so go on take a look anyways.  Mistress Consensual

Mistress Consensual Agency Application Form 0 – 5-1

 

Ramblings from a submissive male:

Reblogged .

Definitely, a must read for anybody looking to deep-dive into the chastity mindset/lifestyle! so why not read this then contact Mistress Haylee and find out much much more of what Chastity is all about.

Assessments of Chastity

Pcguy For Mistress Haylee has started a new group on Fetlife that I have joined.  I’m not very active on Fet and always looking for reasons to be.  As I did more experimentation with chastity devices in 2017 than ever before, I wanted to revisit the topic.  I will just let my thoughts swirl and try to cover as many aspects of this topic as I can, both in general and what it means to me.  I will warn beforehand that it will probably jump around and feel disorganized.

First off, I will say that when people are into chastity, I term them chastity enthusiasts.  With most topics in the world of BDSM, fetishist is usually the word of choice, but in the case of chastity that seems like an oxymoron.  Having a fetish for not being able to get hard or orgasm doesn’t seem to fit the bill.  Hence, chastity enthusiast seems far more fitting.

Secondly, the idea of keeping a man in chastity is one topic that a lot of female subs get turned on by.  They might be super submissive and have extensive kinks all on the submissive side of things, but have a conversation about chastity and you might be surprised at just how many submissive women enjoy the idea of having their man locked up with his erections and orgasms under her control.  It is rather interesting.

I should probably say this.  Ideally, no submissive male should NEED chastity to control themselves.  A sub that can’t keep from masturbating or follow rules regarding their orgasm control probably struggles to get or keep a dominant.  By and large, this makes chastity a choice rather than a necessity.

From the standpoint of a dominant woman, chastity can be a polarizing topic.  A middle ground still exists that is indifferent to the idea of male chastity, but when it gets talked about it is often because a Domme fully embraces the idea of keeping their man locked up, or they absolutely despise the idea of keeping their man locked up.

The anti-chastity route is often one in favor of keeping the male’s penis ready and available for immediate use.  The Domme enjoys PIV sex, and locking a man up and denying him access to her vagina reduces her pleasure.  This is often accompanied by the idea that a man should be fully capable of controlling himself and doesn’t need a piece of metal, plastic, or silicone between his legs to do that.

The pro-chastity route varies a whole lot in how extensive chastity devices should be used.  There are some general consensuses though, such as, a man locked in chastity while his partner has the key will become more focused upon the needs of his partner since release is earned by focusing externally rather than selfishly.  I tend to agree with these sentiments.

As for the intensity of and how extensive chastity is used, on the mild end you will find people who use it as a temporary punishment or for short periods of time, often having a build up period where the sub becomes increasingly frustrated and desperate with the outcome being an explosive and highly pleasurable orgasm.

On the extreme end you will find subs who are locked permanently in chastity and/or the use of spiked devices that cause rather excessive pain when an erection is attempted.  This may be common in situations where a sub has been reduced to slave status and their sexual pleasure is no longer deemed of any importance.  Another common situation is when the sub is a cuckold and keeping him chaste and without pleasure is a symbol of his sexual inferiority.  Spiked devices are even more intense and train a sub to control their arousal, although my gut tells me that used extensively, this may lead to impotence if the body gets traumatized enough.

Between the extremes is where most chastity practitioners fall and you will find infinite flavors within the lifestyle.  In these cases, the sub’s default state is locked in chastity.  However, it is not permanent and they will be released with some frequency for cleaning, shaving, and the occasional orgasm.  Sometimes the release is regular and scheduled.  Other times the release must be earned.  Other times the release is done at random, often involving some form of game of chance.  Or it could just be “whenever she feels like it.”

You will find women that love to tease their subs when they are locked up, knowing that the attempted erection will frustrate them and make them more desperate.  You will find women who put no focus on the man’s arousal and frown upon any attention he gives to his penis.  You will find women who treat chastity as keeping him locked up and ready for use.  You will find women who treat chastity as the place to keep things that will go unused.  Any reason you can think of is probably practiced by someone.

Why do women like this?  I believe in its most basic form, having actual physical control over a man’s genitalia is rather empowering.  If I had to make a guess, the rest would build from there.  What fun is power and control if you can’t abuse it a little?  I can understand someone enjoying using release as a carrot on a stick, leading the sub where they want to.  I can understand enjoying seeing their whims toy with a man’s hopes and desires.  I don’t think someone has to be a sadist to enjoy these things… but it doesn’t hurt.

For those who are wondering about prolonged orgasm denial, it is healthier to purge the prostate regularly.  There are various techniques used to drain the prostate (frequently without orgasm) and these techniques are known as milking.  This allows the prostate and stored toxins to be purged, and if done without an orgasm, this will not decrease the amount of built up sexual frustration or cause a sub to drop out of submissive mental space.  Ruined orgasms are another method used, but milking is generally considered more thorough.

Chastity for me is a complicated subject.  I have never spent more than 72 consecutive hours locked up because I have never found a device that fit comfortably and safely to do so.  I have learned the hard way that powering through the pain leads to complications.  Opening a sore that takes 24 days to heal benefits no one.

Mentally, chastity works into my ideal D/s scenario.  Being immersed in submissive mental space is the equilibrium I seek.  If having an orgasm will prevent me from feeling the way that I want to, I am okay with sacrificing that.  Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy orgasms, but when thinking logically about it, it doesn’t always feel “worth it.”  I know that wearing a chastity device actually increases my sex drive and helps to trigger (or deepen) my submissive mental space.

However, the aspect of it that affects me the most relates to my emotional masochism.  The reasons behind it are my space fuel.  I enjoy being triggered by being mindfucked into feeling like if I desire sexual pleasure or rewards that I am being selfish and unworthy as a sub.  I enjoy being triggered by her taking away my erections and orgasms because she knows that I like them.  I enjoy being triggered by being humiliated and told if I was bigger that she wouldn’t lock me up.  I enjoy being triggered by not knowing when, how, or why I will be released next.  I enjoy being triggered by how unfair the disparity is between the sexual pleasure that each of us experiences.

All of these notions absolutely crush my ego and that process of being crushed makes me spiral so deliciously into subspace.  That is what chastity does for me.

 

Mistress Haylee – Domme

What is Financial Domination?

 

In the world of BDSM there are a number of fetishes that relate to all manner of specific things. Some men like to be told that they have tiny penises, others want to dress up in women’s clothes

Financial Domination, or FinDom as it is known, is a fetish where the submissive finds it sexually pleasing to have some, or all, of his hard earned money spent by a figure that he believes to be superior to him.
Make certain that there are no illusions of what a slave is getting from me and what they can expect. It is then up to each individual to make their own informed opinion.
There are stops in place where I can step in and let them know that I believe they are going too far.

If you have read this far then why not find out more about the Buzz you will get having a Mistress control your life and join My stable you can email me and remain anonymous on haylee_bristol@mail.com

Now many of you know that some of us Mistresses Share sites, I am one of those and I share a Big World site with other Mistresses you will find us at : http://www.olafetish.com and yes you will find the same services on there, so you can even join My stable t and now to a subject that I am often asked about Consensual Contracts, Yes you read that right and it used to be applied regular and yes it still goes on mostly behind closed doors or curtains and I still get lots of requests to provide the same service and contracts like I used to and half the excitement is the filling and sending of the contract and I plan to provide the service and CBF documents just like I used to So if you think you would be interested in finding out more then just email me and ask for a Stable application form.

Mistress Haylee

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                       Got a feeling 2018 is going to be a Stable Year.

Now what make me think that your saying, well since my last post then quite a few of you have wrote to me asking for a membership form and that just shows how easy it is to join Mistress Haylee`s Stable and just look at this one he even got the right name for him/her so that saves me giving a name.

 

Mistress Haylee, could you please send me an application form to join your stable.

I feel that I will bring something more colourful to your stable in that I am a cross dresser. I really love wearing women’s silk underwear. I have enclosed a pic of me wearing such.

My fetish started off with wearing my sisters under wear and then I couldn’t stop. I now have several draws full, many of which I have purchased but some I fancied when I saw them on other peoples clothes lines (I liked them so I just took them to add to my now extensive collection.

You must admit mistress that I look really sexy in them.

Once I receive you application form to join your stable Mistress I’ll complete it and return it immediately.

I have always wanted to serve a real Mistress and I am absolutely certain you will make my dream come true.

subworthy

True story for those interested in Consensual blackmail

Willing blackmail victim, his own story

I have this week signed up to consensual blackmail with Mistress Haylee. This is a quick posting to share how it felt completing the contract and how it feels 24 hours later. I will also share a few hopes as well….. You never know Mistress Haylee might read it and take note!!

The contract itself requested details of myself, my wife, my work, my parents, my siblings and I had to write a letter to my wife (for Mistress Haylee to keep in case she ever wants to send it to my wife) , detailing a big fantasy that I have. Even though I expect the name, address telephone number etc, it is still hugely arousing typing it out, knowing I am putting everything at risk. I enjoyed filling out those details so much. In fairness I would have given anything I was asked for….. Bank account details, copy of driving licence. The more information I give, the more exposed I am. And that is exactly what I want. To feel exposed. To back myself into a situation where I have to do exactly what I am told to do, because the threats that can be held over my head are more scary than any embarrassing or humiliating task I might be given.

The letter to my wife was a really good idea. I couldn’t bear it if my wife ever received that letter. But I wanted to write it. I wanted to open up my defences and put everything on the line.

Yes – as this blog is titled….. I really am a willing blackmail victim. I really do want to give my Mistress every advantage, and weaken my own position. Do I want my life ruined? No. Do I want to lose my wife and children? No. So why do I want this? Why do I crave this? Why have I not felt one tiny regret since sending off my contract?

Because in Mistress Haylee, I have someone with the power, weapons, desire and ability to make me do whatever she wants, when she wants, and that is the key. I want to act because I have been told to do so. I want to learn to obey, even when the task is difficult…. Beyond difficult even. I want to have to embarrass myself, humiliate myself, feel real shame…. I couldn’t do those things without the correct incentive. Blackmail is the incentive. I can now doing anything I am asked to do…. Surely?

So I will finish this first post with a plea to My Mistress.

Please Mistress…… Find my boundaries. Stretch them, break them, smash them. If you make me cry, be proud of yourself. If you think i can’t take any more, test out your theory….. Make me take more. Relish in my suffering. Enjoy it. Make me thank you. Make me beg you for more. Make me ask you for more Mistress. Be a total bitch. A cruel bitch. I am a big boy. An adult. I am asking for this. Begging for this. Let’s have some fun Mistress. Bring it on!!

As a foot note, I would also like to say something to those reading this blog. This is real, we are not play acting. There are no safe words. No exit fees. No end date.

WOW!!

I will post so much more on this blog in the coming days and weeks and beyond. Including my email address as I would love to hear from you!!

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Lily and the Powers that be V The Boss

Support for Both Lily and THE BOSS

Now I don’t know just how many of you been reading about the Lily V Boss Saga, quite a lot of you I expect because it makes for interesting reading but for myself who knows both Mistresses very well then I don`t know just who is in the right maybe its 6 of one and half a dozen of the other and I am not going to take sides I dare not because of my working relationship and would like you all to know that THE BOSS aka Bird69 was in my mind beginning to turn the site round and I was Gob smacked to read she was suspended from olafetish.com

I have contacted THE BOSS and told her just how sorry I was about this matter and I offered her the chance to join me on here https://hayleebristol.wordpress.com/

And she thanked me and said that she is going to have her own site, don’t think I should have told you that but you can keep your eyes open and visit her and of course The Boss can visit this site at any time to use the site or plug her own So that leaves me with more to say but better not so wish her THE BOSS Bird69 all the best in her New Venture from Haylee and all the Gang.

Haylee.

It does not matter what country you live

It does not matter what country you live in, Take a Look at my Back posts Mistress Haylee, My reputation speaks louder than all.

Plenty of sexual Content and like to give my Stable whats missing in their lives: Yes plenty of  SEX.

 

Consensual Blackmail is as dangerous as you desire, dont be fooled by consensual wording ! you play with fire..
Blackmail,That thing that you desperately crave, yet are too fucking chicken shit
to actually go through with. It’s just a fantasy ” for now” But is it possible that …the thought excites you and makes your cock pound and go harder than its ever been.

While the  submissive voluntarily pays money to keep shameful or incriminating evidence from seeing the light of day, the thrill is in skirting the edge, risking exposure, either by not being able to keep up with the agreed to payments, or choosing to not keep up in order to edge closer to being exposed.
By willingly sharing contact information for the most important people in his life, by willingly giving up incriminating evidence, usually of an erotic nature, and then committing to a financial arrangement with a dominant to keep his or Her “secret” safe, the submissive puts in the hands of the dominant the power to ruin him or her by revealing his secrets to those who think they know him if he/she does not hold up his/her side of the contract.
I live for female supremacy, foot and body worship and humiliation and want you to entertain me with tasks and assignments that I set you.
Mistress Haylee.   haylee_bristol@mail.com

My email is haylee_bristol@mail.com  or contact on here.

 

Suck Buddy for Samantha.

Hi guys, its the Postmistress here better known by Mistress Karina and I would like to find a well hung suck buddy for my sub Sam better known Samantha, Here is the latest email and a few pics that Sam sent in please read it all

Dear Mistress Karina
I promised you some extra naughty photos of me dressed and being a sissy slut. I wasn’t sure if I should send them but with all the extra competition on olafetish I thought you needed some new material to work with so here they are!

Did you get many men wanting me to be their cocksucker last time? I did get an email from shoe and he doesn’t live too far away but when I replied I didn’t get an answer.
I was thinking that if you found a man that could travel to me you could have on going posts about setting me up as you’re cock whore, sending me shopping for a slutty outfit to wear for my man and me eventually becoming you’re sissy cocksucking slave. That will surely make you the most regular posting and popular Domme on olafetish and most likely to take charge.
Love Samantha x
Samantha lives in the North of  England and you can read from his words that she wants to please Mistress and can`t wait to fnd a suck buddy and I feel sure that there is lots of guys out there who will be sending in their details and saying Samantha can suck this anytime, I would also like to know from you guys whats the thoughts of Body hair, I myself think that Samantha should be shaved smooth so your thoughts on that one too and all your emails should be sent to me Mistress Karina   karinamilf4u@gmail.com 
with Samantha on the subject line Now this should be interesting and Maybe we will soon be seeing some shaving pics ?  I have been told that a guy can`t shave without getting a Big hard on I wonder.
Mistress Karina Postmistress.